I have an ex boyfriend whom I call my evil ex, simply because he was so awful.  He was a really emotionally abusive guy, and it took me a year and a half to extract myself from that relationship — and, realistically, it wasn’t until he did something so terrible that I could never stand to go back to him again, that I finally was able to stand strong and cut him out of my life.

One of the things that I couldn’t wait to do after we broke up was to sell gold jewelry he had bought me.  I didn’t want any reminder of him in my jewelry box, no matter how pretty it was!  Luckily the current gold value was pretty good at the time, and I was able to sell gold for cash — a decent amount of cash, too.

Another thing I did was to get rid of any trace of him in my daily life.  I deleted his phone numbers from my phone, burned or destroyed his pictures, etc.  When you are cutting someone out of your life for good, you can’t afford to be sentimental about stuff like that.  Being sentimental just leaves the door open for him to come back — and when you are dealing with someone who has dealt you a lot of emotional abuse and has used you like a yo-yo in the past, that is a very dangerous thing to do!

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